Tag: Kids

6 December
Chris Arends

I have been reading “Tuesdays with Morrie” which was left behind by Nick when he went off to college this fall. In it he talks about living as if today were the day were your last. As this is the Christmas season it got me thinking about the future. With Nick and Christine still dating and Robert thinking of the military as an option for next year this could be our last Christmas together with two special people that could very loosely be regarded as children in the house.

With Robert at almost 6’7″ it is hard to call him a child but he is still our little boy. He doesn’t have the responsibilities of being an adult yet but is quickly making some of those transitions. Nick is off at college so we don’t see or talk to him as much already and he is moving quickly towards going his own way.

While at the request of my Wife and Mother-in-law I have made a Christmas list, what I really want for Christmas this year is for the boys to take time to enjoy the season. This could be the last chance to have a Christmas season where all they have to do is go along for the ride. I want them to think about what it means to be Home. Giving their Mother the “gift” of doing their laundry, making the food they like and of course her baking. I want them to b engaged with the activities that are going on around with both their friends and family. Don’t spend too much time playing video games and share what is going on with those you care about. Before they know it they will have other distractions in the holiday season. As they get older, work, travel, eventually their own families and other distractions that will get in the way of truly enjoying the season.

I know this wish may be as elusive as flying reindeer but I am optimistic.


9 December
Chris Arends

Tonight my sons and I went and picked out our Christmas tree.  Despite that fact that they are 11 and 13 they didn’t mind that we walked down to the neighborhood nursery to pick out the tree. 



They happily looked through the selection of trees and easily decided on a tree.  After my evaluation of their choice we purchased the tree and as is our tradition proceeded to carry it home.   At this point they both eagerly grabbed an end of the tree and started for home.   I expected at some point one of them would get tired or just be annoyed that I wasn’t helping.  To my surprise they happily, almost joyfully carried it all the way home.  Now it is only about 5 blocks but it seems a  lot longer when you are carrying a 7 ft tall tree.  Yet they both could have gone on for miles.




After we got home they each helped in getting the tree up. Nick going into the attic to get the stand and ornaments and Robert setting up the tree stand.




Now I am sure to most of you that sounds great.  And to some extent it is to me as well.  Then I stood back and thought of the first time we did this, when they could barely stand the walk back and forth. Now here they are easily carrying the tree.  It is just one more reminder to me of how fast they are growing up and how I need to savor these moments.   In 5 or 6 years they may not be home for this part of Christmas, returning just in time to ask for the keys and gas money so they can see their friends.





This morning I was thinking how I wasn’t in the Christmas mood and how I needed to do something to help the boys slow down and remember the spirit of Christmas and here I am 12 hours later with thoughts of Christmas’ past, present and future going through my head.   Now all I need is for it to snow.